If I Could Go Back And Give Myself Love Advice..
If I could go back and give myself love advice about the times and experiences I’ve had, I’m not sure what the right thing would be to say. Would it be better to tell myself that everything happens for a reason? Or would it be better to tell myself to avoid going on a date with that a$$hole you met at that football game when you were fifteen years old because he would end up making out with your best friend? I feel like I would honestly go with the first.
If I could go back, I’d tell myself to enjoy every moment you have with the people who walk into your lives. Each person has their own, unique personalities and experiences and some of my best memories have come from the people I’ve been in relationships with.
Call me crazy, but getting a “do over” and being allowed to fix the relationships I’ve had in the past and getting to change the subtle imperfections about myself or someone that would ultimately lead to the demise in a relationship just isn’t worth it to me. Think about it– think about that person you dated who made you laugh constantly, who held your hand and told you that you were his sun and his moon and stars, and then think about how that relationship ended. You were probably crushed, devastated. Wether or not you’ve had a serious relationship, everyone has experienced some type of heartbreak. Now, my point is that even though that was one of the worst days of your life. You thought the world was crumbling around you. You thought you were always going to be alone. You thought that you were going to grow up and be fat and have 800 cats. YOU MOVED ON. That experience and that person taught you something beautiful about yourself.
If you took it all back you would have never spent those nights stargazing on a beach somewhere counting the little pin pricks in the sky. You would have never burned the first homemade dinner you prepared yourself and had that person laugh and call and order a pizza instead. You would have never had those mornings spent in bed where you press your nose against their cheek and whisper that you’re happy in their ear. You would have never had the summertime nights driving home from a friend’s house with the windows rolled down and them singing some song you love in the car to you.
Those are the nights you look back and remember.
You don’t focus on the negativity or the unhappy bickering. You may remember the days where you had arguments. Hell, maybe you’re still bitter about them. But you will always remember those moments that made you fall in love with that person.
If you went back and changed every experience you had and took things back, you would never grow up. You would never give yourself the opportunity to learn the things you like and do not like in the person you want to spend your life with. You would never be able to connect with someone else who has experienced that type of emotional pain that comes with ending something extremely special to you. You would never be able to grow on an emotional level and learn anything about yourself. It is the hard times that make the largest difference when it comes to how your personality and depth develops as you get older.
So, if I could give myself any little piece of love advice if I had to go back in time, I think I would tell myself that letting go is one of the hardest things in the world to do when it comes to someone who has a little piece of your heart. But, I would tell myself that the amount of heartbreak in the end taught me to be someone and formed me into the person I am today. We all have the opportunity to touch someone else’s life when it comes to relationship and, if you use that power properly, you can make a very important and lasting impact on someone else’s life.